“Give others all that is alive in us-our interest,
understanding, our knowledge, our humor,
everything in us that’s good. In doing so, we
enhance the sense of aliveness in others
while enhancing our own. When we give, we
get a “heightened vitality” of what it means to
be human.” – Erich Fromm

True giving comes from the same place inside
you as your deepest happiness. They are
inexplicably intertwined. A gift is something
that is enjoyed twice. First by the giver who
revels in the pleasure of giving something
special and then also enjoyed by the person
who receives the gift.
With our changing economic times, everyone
is asking for help in some form. There are as
many reasons to give as there are ways to
give. Some people give for recognition. They
want their names in programs, on park
benches and in hospital lobbies. Others give
expecting to be paid back or thanked, they
give to get. Some people want a hands-on-
experience and are generous with their time.
Some like to give anonymously and don’t want
any recognition at all.
People who truly master the art of giving give
out of the goodness of their hearts with no
self-serving motives. Giving becomes a
blessing for the giver and receiver. It’s human
nature to believe, “When I have more I’ll give
more.” If you come from this mentality you
never have enough of anything to give.
Generosity is a choice that feels right and
joyful. Generosity comes from believing you
have enough to share.
You may be a bit skeptical, wondering what
exactly do you have to give? Everybody has
something of value for another person. It
could be a kind word, a simple smile, some
appreciation, the sharing of some special
knowledge, even a helping hand or a bit of
support during a difficult emotional time. You
have something to give everyone.
The act of true giving is something wonderful
and amazing. With most things in this world,
there is only a limited amount of what you
can give away. Fortunately, generosity and
kindness are not bound to these same
material limitations. One of life’s most basic
laws is “every single act of love, kindness and
generosity will multiply and return to you
many times over “. The more you give the
happier you will feel.
Many thousands of years ago a great sage in
Babylon said “The reward of charity depends
entirely upon the extent of the kindness in it.”
It is one of life’s wonderful paradoxes that you
limit the power of your giving by having an
expectation of getting something in return.
When you give without any thought or desire
for something back, your returns will be truly
Your life is like a river of energy, continually
flowing. What happens when a river stops
moving? It get very muddy, and stagnant. A
fast flowing river is full of life and clear
water. Where would you rather drink? The
acts of giving and receiving are a continuous
process of circulation that continues the flow
of your life’s energies. For one person to
receive someone else has to give. It’s a cycle
of energy that flows continually onwards.
Pause for as moment as you read this, and
take a big, deep breath. Hold it for as long as
you possibly can. As you hold it inside, notice
how uncomfortable you begin to feel when
you are holding on to something that is meant
to be released. Now, breath out, completely
and hold your breath with your lungs fully
emptied. Feel how uncomfortable you feel
when you are resisting taking in something
that you need.
True giving, without expectation of anything
in return is as effortless as breathing. How
often do you expect back from the person you
gave something to a gift of a similar or greater
value? Is this true giving or merely an
unvoiced expectation of an exchange of
similar goods? Have you ever heard anyone
saying ” I just give and give and give until I
have nothing left “? This behavior has many
other names. Self denial, self pity, martyrdom,
self righteousness to name just a few.
This is an ego based form of giving. It is
giving with an expectation of something in
return. In reality, this is not giving at all but
an un-vocalized form of barter. If, through the
act of giving, you feel that you have “lost
something or are somehow lessened” then the
gift was not truly given from your heart. Truly
giving something from the heart is an action
which will fill your life with joy. This is
where the expression to “give whole
heartedly” comes from.
The intention behind your giving is the most
important thing. The intention should always
be to create happiness for both the giver and
the receiver. If you experience resentment
and a feeling of “I don’t really want to give
this to this person, but I feel that I have to” or
“I really should give them something,” this is
probably what ultimately will come back to
you. Perhaps in this case, you need to
consider not giving the gift at all!
What you give out is what comes back in
direct proportions to the feelings you have in
the act of giving. It’s very simple. If you want
to experience more joy, give joy to others, if
you want more love, learn to give love, if you
want attention and appreciation, learn to give
appreciation to others. These are some of
life’s most precious gifts and they don’t cost
you anything. When you meet someone, you
can silently send them a blessing, wishing
them happiness, joy and laughter. This kind
of silent giving is very powerful. Do this,
(with no thought of return) and you will
suddenly find people around you opening to
you in joy and happiness.
In ancient China, Lao Tsu wrote “Kindness in
words creates confidence. Kindness in
thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in
Giving Creates Love.”

The following are gifts we all have that can
benefit others.

Give of Your Talents
Give someone an hour of coaching, offer child
care or do you have plumbing, painting, or
landscaping skills? Give things. Clean your home
and clear out your closet of unwanted things.
Give what you don’t use or need to charity. Your
junk is someone else’s treasure.

Give blood ,,, FUNNY right?
Save a life. I’ve done this on several occasions;
it’s a great feeling to know you are helping to
save someone’s life.

Give of yourself
Make someone feel loved, special and
appreciated with a visit, phone call, email, text
or card. Give a handmade gift. Give praise,
gratitude and appreciation. This creates heart-
to-heart connections.

Give a recommendation
Enrich someone’s life by sharing the discovery
of a great blog, book, restaurant, product or
service. The message you give is “This was a
great find for me and I want to share it with

Give the gift of laughter
Laughter brings health and happiness to others.
It offers physiological, psychological and spiritual
benefits. Laugh loud and laugh often with

Give an invitation
Being invited to any kind of event means people
want to be with you. When you invite someone
into your life you are saying, “I want to spend
time with you, you are important to me.

Give affection
Appropriately offer a hug, a kiss on the cheek, a
pat on the back, a touch on an arm or a tender
look. We never lose the need for affection and
acceptance. Touching heals emotional wounds.

Give good advice
Ask the question, “Do you want advice or to you
want me to listen.” If needed and wanted advice
can be life-saving. Shared insights and wisdom is
a precious gift.

Give encouragement
When people are filled with doubt and fear they
lack courage. When you inspire and motivate
someone to act on their dreams, it can be life
changing. You are making the world a better

Give without keeping score
Real giving is expecting nothing in return. Give
when you have the opportunity not because you
received something and want to return the
favor. Never hesitate to give because you gave

Give forgiveness
Forgiveness offers healing to family, friends,
coworkers and neighbors. Forgive yourself and
others in spite of memories of unlovable times.
Drop the story of what they did and what you did
and the meaning you have given it.



Give money
Giving stuff is easy. We usually don’t need or
want it… But almost everyone likes to hang on
to their money. Giving away money is more
difficult because it means less for you. Give
money because others need it. Give money
because we’re dependent on one another.

Give an act of kindness
Kindness is the easiest and most abundant gift
we have to give away. Buy Girl Scout cookies,
always open the door for the person behind you,
return your grocery cart, make cookies for your
neighbor. The list is endless. Kindness brings joy
to the giver, receiver and anyone witnessing the

Give love
It’s easy to love those who love us back.
Challenge yourself to give love to those who
deserve it the least. Make your love
unconditional. Make the world a more loving
place. Everyone will reap the benefits!
The act of giving precludes reciprocity of any
kind. It’s a manifestation of the love we feel
within, just bursting for a way out. True
giving flows freely from the heart, with the
full force of love and compassion and honest
selflessness propelling it forward. Anything
less is simply a disguised request for a
bartered transaction.

Give……and it will come back to you in good measures !!!!


Top Time Waster (TTW)


*lets get to business for the day*
I was at a retreat organized by the youths of my diocese and the guest speaker who happens to be our Provost emphasized on a thoughtful and powerful statement.

He said ” The youths of this generation, the time we spend watching the television , if it continues at that rate; nobody will watch you in life”

It is indeed sad that the media is the ultimate time waster of this generation, we have ignored the fact that we need to also work hard to be seen on the television someday. Many of the great men we see on the television were busy working,reading,innovating and inventing while their mates were having fun and enjoying their lives. THe media has invented alot of fascinating and mind thrilling programmes which has become gods to mosyA youths in our dear nation. Africa magic has changed the mind and dreams of alot of people who are not self controlled.
Those behind the social media are working hard in their duties to entertain people, that is their passion , they worked hard to get there… have you ever thought of that? WASTING HOURS WITH THE TELEVISION IS DEFINITELY A HUGE WASTE OF TIME WHEN THERE ARE MORE IMPORTANT AND RELEVANT THINGS TO BE DONE AT THAT MOMENT.
I dare not criticze the media, that is their duty and vision…it is a great thing cuz they could entertain us to satisfaction, and that is because they have worked harder to know the wants of the society but then, as a young guy/lady; the television should not be our priority, we’ve gat mpre than enough to get busy with.

Stop dumping time into the television bin.

Stop dumping time into the television bin.


The hope of this great nation should not be upon T.V freaks but upon those who are willing to be distinct and control d urge of time wasting.

Watch the television if you must but put self control into action..remember, each second you waste counts and each hour wasted will always be accounted for; Later in the nearest future.

You can't regain the lost time

You can’t regain the lost time

Just imagine;
If wole Soyinka was like you, would you even hear about him today?

If Pastor Enoch Adeboye was like you, would you know him today?

If Fela Durotoye was a tv freak like you, would he have been a top public speaker today?

If Dr. Benjamin carson had not been stopped by his mum from excessive watching of the television, I doubt if he would have been successful in life….

It is loud and clear to us….CAUTION!!



please gladly read in between the lines.

Leadership is not what most people term it to be these days…to series of people, it has become a title…


We need leaders who will be doubly accountable(accountable for themselves and their followers). Leaders who see themselves as a tool of achievement for their disciples…

Lead with dignity and passion

Lead with dignity and passion

I was opportuned to see the end of a movie and I realised the true life of a leader… this young man knew his men were panicking,infact many of them already threw their armours away..then he decided to inspire and encourage them on reasons why they must fight the battle for generations to come…I keenly watched what he would do..I was expecting him to place the strong men on the forefront and direct the strategy of the war but behold he ran towards the enemy combatants and slain their general,His followers saw this and they all ran with courage towards the enemies..He took the major step and they follwed him…That is GENUINE LEADERSHIP !

We all point accusation fingers at our leaders about their incapabilities as leaders, but the truth is…are we also portraying the true essence of leadership…

ARE you the right head of the family?
ARE you the right elder brother/sister to your siblings?
ARE you the right president of your society?

These are questions we need to ask ourselves and set things right.
As a leader, learn to place your followers on your shoulder so they can also be a success story..

It is easy to lead when you are strong…. but when you are weak, you exhibit the true leadership….




*a write up to set us back on track*

It isn’t fun,
It is absolute underutilization of your gift’

MOST times I see alot of us fool ourselves, trying hard to deny the gift in us. It is so sad that our world is crumbling because some”Lazy and weak” people are not ready to contribute their quota. We all clamour and shout for a change but yet, we all hide in our caves and under our shells shouting for change.
It won’t be a sensible world if we the inhabitants are weak and not willing to be responsible for those behind us ..

The gift is not to be a follower forever, but a Leader.

The gift is not to be a follower forever, but a Leader.

Leaders are making followers,
Followers are not willing to become leaders,
Leaders are liars,
Followers are their accomplices…. Oh ! WHO WILL MAKE THAT CHANGE!

Many are gifted in so many ways that can bring growth to our nation but probably some amongst them are greedy and not willing to pull out the gift from their achiveW except someone offers them honey in return…We are the sources of Our nations growth…..

Don’t let that gift go in vain, it is needed…. we all need it , we all aspire for it….we all anticipate……
Don’t acknowledge any circumstance that might try to stop you, circumstances are meant to make us strong… your gift was God’s greatest gift for you during your creation and it is for a purpose.
Many gifts are useless in the grave at the moment, why not use yours and let it celebrate you….

Gifts piled up in the grave..

Gifts piled up in the grave..

but yet, we can still turn the table to our side…
start small, and end big…..
MAke a change around you and let your fame spread…




Winning is a word that is exciting to hear and great to be associated with but only a few people ever taste it. Every person want to be associated with a winner(champion).

People like stars are celebrated in society because they have emerged ‘winners’ in there respective field. Loosers are shuned and most times loosing is associated with shame. no wonder most people when they loose they cant withold tears.

There isnt any big difference therefore between a winner and a looser. Lets look at two football teams. They all have equal number of players, had the same period in which to prepare, have same chances of scoring but only one team will be crowned.

Winners are Leaders

Winners are Leaders

This shows that life displays the same opportunity to a winner as it does to a looser. The bible says in proverbs that the poor and the rich have one thing in common: God. this means God equips every person with ‘equipment’ for making it in your life and how far you will go in bring this potential out to be a victor in life is entirely dependant on you.Look at a classroom set up.

The same teacher delivers the topic to all students. they have the same books to study, same duration in which to write the exam and yet they score different marks. Some settle for 40,50 and other get 90,100 percent.The difference is with the way the minds are employed to yield.

Everyone reading this is a potential winner, potential millionare,potential successful bussinessman, potential proffessor.

The solution is in your hands and not in any one else’s. Your background is not an issue. hey! Check out some of the most successful bussiness giants in the world, they dont have a formal educational background and yet they feed graduates. This leaves you and i with an interesting thought.

Educational qualification doesnt equal to success. We have people with degrees and yet they are not successful. What counts is how wide you engage your mental faculties to advantage you in your pursuit of life.

So the answer you have be looking for is not far fetched. its right above your neck.
you have what it takes to make a difference in your life, family and country. Once you begin to think beyond your current level, begin to see beyond your nose then you will become a force to reckon with.

The trophy is for the worthy.

The trophy is for the worthy.

Someone said ‘opportunity is usually missed by most people because it comes dressed in an overose and looks like work’. Opportunities are lying idle every where waiting for men to open there eyes, engage their minds and explore them. Dont wait for a 100million loan to get you started in bussiness, you can start where you are and with what you have. You can start with a ‘Kantemba’ to a shop to a mall. Starting small is not wrong but staying small is not good. Some people started small and today own airlines, others also started small and today they are even smaller.

You have ideas in you head that are begging to be released and explored. You have potential inside you that is wailing to be unveiled to this generation.

Happy sunday Pals …….

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It was love at first sight…Chika and Toyin…. awesome !!


WE ARE BOUNDed TOGETHER with love…you know?

It was love at first sight!” – Chika and Toyin share their love story and pre-wedding photos…..

Their love story started in church, so y’all who are still searching, he/she might just be in your parish.
Here’s the love story and pre-wedding photos of Chika and Toyin.

With my heart, I love you

With my heart, I love you

He used to be a chorister in my own R.C.C.G parish where i too just newly joined their workforce, this was before his job got him transferred to Ibadan:-( . The first day i saw him ooooh lala it was love at first sight. I instantly started having a crush on him, I thought; who’s this cute dark guy but I guess then he was in a relationship and was into her so he just kept our friendship cordial.

Later on we met at a church dinner and got reintroduced to each other and that was the start point, we exchanged contacts and kept communicating via social media. We carried on the friendship for two months.

I already knew he was in love with me and cupid has struck his arrow on me too but he wasn’t just coming out to say it.

So, I took the bull by the horn and decided to ask him to define our friendship because people, i mean his friends and other peeps that see us hang out together were starting to think we were dating.

He came out straight the next day to tell me that he is in love with me and would want us to take d friendship to d next level B-). I was kukuma(permission to use that) already craving for it. I did my shakara for just a week and gave him a YES!

Looking into your eyes, I knew it was true love.

Looking into your eyes, I knew it was true love.

LOVE !!!! She said yes!!!

LOVE !!!! She said yes!!!

And that was it,we are moving it to the next level again in which we believe God wants and approves and would see us through it.

Seeing the pictures alone moved me to the bone…
I wish ChikaToyinToyin a fruitful union….
Hmmn….I am eager, who is next?



Good morning wonderful readers, hope you all slept well?

This week has been a very hectic one for me, especially at school..Monday was filled with practicals and blames, Tuesday was filled with practicals and assignments, Wednesday was like a thug of war at the Congress and almost got injured after involving in a minor motorcycle accident,Thursday was a bit free even though my shoe got damaged right in front of the Faculty gate and today….Gods knows.

What i want to share with us today is my burden for we youths and it is already taking over us all, it is getting into power. You know what it is? THE LIMITING MENTALITY .It is so sad that we all exhibit the limiting mentality, we seem to always give up after few trials, we tend to assume that we cannot be stretched beyong our limits. Most of us are meant to be great, we were meant to achieve our dreams beyond limit, but yet, upon this assurance by GOD, we still fear the seen and unseen challenges or trials we face. You can never be great unless you have been tested and trusted, except you have passed through the furnance of life.

It isnt going to be smooth or free, i tell you….. it will be rough with different pot holes on our way to success, we shouldnt expect lasting success to come so easy to us, we must work for it with our sweats. Passing through difficulties and challenges does not mean we are sinners or GOD has forsaken us, life is a battle field and therefore we have to fight it and win, even the Mighty general of a nation can get injured and it doesnt mean he is weak, It only means he has attracted a strong opposing general, Friends,we have to exceed the limit, we need to break the limiting mentality.

It sounds easy saying it right? Lol

But the truth is, we can do more than this in life “ a little baby doesnt walk until he starts to crawl, then hold objects to move around,holding the mother to walk around,walk alone with little stamina and falls and then the baby finally becomes a very young boy who can walk,fall,rise,jump and do all sort” thats it… The kid exceeded the baby limit of crawling. Giving it a trial is cool, never give up because the devil always makes sure people gives up at the last minute to greatness. The thin line between success and failure is giving up.


N.B : I am not asking you to overwork yourself or start jumping around aimlessly, Purpose comes first, why do i have to exceed this limit?
We need GOD, the ultimate source of help.
I cannot but pour out my pain…i believe we can do it better than it is presently, Just a liitle more push and then we set it rolling.

It isnt easy but it is the truth we all have to embrace.
Enjoy your day, Unlimited Generation…


IMG_20141230_074136Wow! Wow! Wow!

MY LAST POST FOR THE YEAR 2014…….29/12/2014

Listening to ‘’DAYS OF ELIJAH’’ by Donnie Mc-clockin
Hmmn, everyone is happy to see the last few days of the year 2014…. many started with us but they are no more alive, many wittnessed the christmas on Thursday but todAY,thet are gone.
I wanna use this unique medium to appreciate everyone who made my year great, without you guys..there wouldnt have been Oluwafemi Babbs. Thanks for keeping yourself updated with my blog, thanks for reading my posts cuz i already quit until someone sent me an email asking me why i decided not to feed him with my motivational articles anymore, i was glad and i felt the eagerness to blog within me again, thaNKS TO all those who followed my blog,liked and commented.. a special thanks to those who willingly sent me their stories to be published on the blog……. If i am to mention names, i would never be able to complete it but yet, there is someone whom i must mwntion his name……GOD!, I appreciate God for giving me the privilege to write, the wisdom and the uderstandung he has give a young warlock like me…. it gladdens my heart when i share mind and thoughts with alot of you, atleast with my liitle strength… i have helped lives through God.
A new year knocks on our doors, and i pray that we all will wittness that prosperous new year….
Most of us hates motivations cuz it tells us to do things that we think are immpossibl to us, most times it seems true but the truth is….many will fail and fail again and then fail again, get frustrated, more frustrated and then become so unfortunate to the extent of commiting sucide but motivations chained and devoured frustration…. motivations gives us reasons why we really need to try again or why we must never quit no matter what….. If people are not motivated, dtermination would become a thing of the past, even God sent the holy spirit to comfort humans and the holyspirit took charge….. God has made us helpers of one another, we are our brothers keeper so we must motivare ourselves to perfporm exploits. I am happy because alot have survived the storm of this world through God by beng motivated one way or the other…. our daily lives wotks on motivation….
You woke up, went to the bathroom and took your bath..if you are noy motivated to dom so, you wont. You took your breakfast even when you are not hungry, if you are not motivated to eat, you wont You decided to go to school on a motor cycle, yes; you did that cuz u motivated yourself to take a bike…
Every year is filled with numerous trials, but believe within yourself that for year 2015, there would be certainty of success and victory after your trials. Have it in mind that the storm will soon be over,
. being alive today means, there is still hhope for tomorrow.
Don’t give up in year 2015, God sees your pain and the moment of victory is near….. cuz God will never let go of you..REMEMBER THAT. Thank you so much for making my year a fruitful one, you all gave me hope when i alredfy gave up, you made me realise that there are lots of lives i must touch and revive.. I am grateful and with God, our 2015 will be better than our 2014.
ONCE AGAIN, HAPPY NEW YEAR IN ADVANCE READERS……….Oluwafemi adores you all…. good bye for now
My 2015 will be a very busy one but with God, i will keep us all updated


THE birthday

THE birthday

Yesterday, most of us Christians celebrated the birth of Jesus Christ, and alot of us were rejoicing, dancing, singing, eating and drinking…well, it is a good thing, but

What is the essence of celebrating the birthday of someone that is not welcome?

Why the eating a drinking for a child that is not in the family?

Here is a short story to illustrate and expose my concern.
About five women(in their early 30’s) coupled with their husbands were seen at a resturant rejoicing, eating and drinking, they were having fun and disscussing with laughter. Few minutes later, an old friend also came to the resturant to get drinks for her family and then saw one of the women who happens to be her friend, so the friends asked anxiously…. what are you celebrating here because i can see the happiness on peoples faces? And then the woman replied, we are celebrating the birthday of my son who clocked two(2) years today. The friend was very happy and so she asked joyfully, where is the child?..
The mother replied with smiles, ooh.i dropped him off with my mother so as to take care of him….. ABSURD!!! ………. A child whom they all are celebrating his birthday with fun, drinking and eating was not even welcomed at his own party….

That is ridiculous !

The same with us all, we celebrate the birth of Jesus with drinking and eating but the truth is that…. is he welcomed into our lives? Or we are just celebrating in vain….. has He taken over the day or we are in-charge. Why celebrate Jesus when most of us have not given Him the chance to control our lives and direct our path.
Christmas is truly a time to rejoice but it is also the time to reflect upon our past and set things right again, a time to accept Jesus into our lives, if we havent.
From me, I wish you all a merry Christmas and a unique new year in ADVANCE……

A Letter From Hell !!



The following is a dramatic presentation. It
was written by a fictitious High School
Student named Josh, to a friend named
Although Zack had every opportunity to tell
Josh about Jesus… he didn’t.

They were best friends. They played
soccer together. They went to classes
together. They partied together. They
shared their lives with each other.
But there is one thing Zack held back from
Josh… his personal relationship with Jesus

»»The rest of the story is simple and sad…
A few too many beers… A tragic drive
home… A crash… a death, a funeral… A
Here is that letter… A letter from Hell.

Dear Zack,

I died today. It’s a lot different than I
expected. You see, I always thought that
dying would bring me to a world that is
foggy and hazy. But this place is crystal
clear… It’s even more real than my life on
I can think. I can talk. I can even feel.
Right after the wreck I could feel my spirit
leaving my body. It was the weirdest thing,
Zack. I thought I heard you screaming out
to me, man. Must have been just imagining
At first I was just standing in line, getting
registered I guess. They asked me for my
name…and began to look in this thing they
called the Book of Life.
I guess they couldn’t find it though because
this huge angel standing next to me
grabbed me by the arm and started
dragging me away. I was terrified. I had
no idea what was going on. I asked the
angel where he was taking me, but he didn’t
answer. So I asked him again…
Finally, he told me that only those, whose
names were written in the Book of Life,
could enter into Heaven and the rest would
be condemned to Hell forever.
Man I was scared. The angel threw me into
some kind of holding cell. Where I’ve been
sitting and thinking for a long long time. Do
you want to know what I’ve been thinking
I’ve been thinking about YOU.
Zack, You’re a Christian.
You told me so yourself. I mean we talked
about it three different times today.
Kelly brought it up and you laughed it off.
Coach Adams brought it up and you changed
the subject.
I mean, it came up right before the wreck.
Well the question I can’t get out of my
mind is this, Zack. Why haven’t you ever
told me about how to become a Christian?
You say you are my friend, but if you
really were you would have told me about
this Jesus and told me how to escape this
terrible place that I’m headed for.
I can feel my heart pounding in my chest,
the angels who have been chosen to cast
me into hell are coming down the hallway. I
can hear their footsteps.
I have heard of this Hell. They call it the
Lake of Fire.
I can’t stand it, Zack. I am terrified. No!
The angels are at the door. Oh no, no!
They’re coming in and they’re pointing at
me. They’re grabbing me and carrying me
out of the room.
I already can smell the burning sulfur and
brimstone. I can see the edge of the cliff
where Hell burns.
This is it. I am without hope.
We’re coming closer, closer, closer. My
heart is bursting with fear. They’re holding
me over the flames. I am damned forever.
This is it. They are throwing me in. Fire,
Pain, HELL.
Why Zack? Why didn’t you ever tell me
about Jesus?
Your friend,

I Wish you were here.

Adapted from a multiple source.